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Mindfulness, connectedness, filing.
virgogirl
Been thinking about lots of stuff lately, in a kind of back-way…trying and succeeding in getting my act together lately, thanks mostly to medications and also some little helpful mantras that I find myself using a lot. “You choose the behavior, you choose the consequences”. “Do what you are doing”. “Act with intention” (these last two comes in especially handy in the kitchen!).

I’ve also been thinking a lot about the idea of “connecting” to aspects of your life. I mean, I will go weeks and realize I haven’t really paid attention to some role, or some outside thing that needs tending just as a garden would. Now if you know me you know that I am practical to the point of appearing superficial, and maybe I am, but at any rate, a lot of this stuff is just really basic shit that rolls along, involves you, and can really screw you up if you don’t make the effort to do a check-in at regular intervals.

Things like food. Finances. Mail. Laundry. Serious but mundane stuff like taxes, and less mundane issues like connecting with a friend or family member. Also, paying attention to the different aspects of your business when you are your own boss…it’s really critical to have those roles and responsibilities written down somewhere and really get at the essence of what it represents.

Maybe this stuff is easy and ingrained in some people, but as someone with ADD who has only recently been diagnosed and gotten on medications, it’s a whole new world, and gives me a more philosophical way of coming at it because of its newness.

For me it’s always so easy to drop out. Even with medication I need to consciously think to myself every day “ok, who are you, who and what is depending on you?”. It’s hard because I work at home so I have to consciously create the sense of “stuff going on”, and also continuity, that usually comes when you work outside the home. That continuity thing is really hard, so I am trying to journal a little every day in my calendar on basic happenings…if I can only remember to look at the damn thing every day!

So today, in preparation to catch up on some tax stuff (which I am so, so unspeakably happy to be finally nearing some closure on) I completely sorted two big baskets of papers that have been sitting around and I have been adding to for about two months now. I didn’t want to miss anything that might pertain to the taxes by trying to dig through them so I figured I would just do it all the way and know for sure that I had uncovered every stone. Fortunately most of it is just stuff to file, and for which I already have designated files for, so that’s nice. I may go ahead and file that stuff instead of leaving it stacked because it probably won’t take more than a half hour and will keep me from continuing to have to pick it up and move it or whatever.

I’m so very tired of procrastinating.

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hahaha you were a nursury-school delinquent!!!

NURSURY SCHOOL ADD DIAGNOSIS??? AGHGHGHGHG!

Where did you grow up? it didn't seem like ADD really "took off" until like the late 80's or something, i'm amazed you got this diagnosis so young. I remember people talking about kids being "hyperactive", but then again it was usually boys who got diagnosed so it doesn't suprise me that even though i went to several shirnks from ages ten on and off till about 17, nobody's ADD-dar went off and i was usually just kind of let go by my counselors as a nice smart, emotional kid.

Girls and women are notoriously UNDER diagnosed with ADD, because the traditional symptoms associated with it focus on disruptiveness and "hyper" behavior that is more often displayed by boys---but not all of them---when they have ADD, and of course when they don't, which is a whole other problem.

A lot of times the reason the child is sent to be diagnosed in the first place is for the very reason, like in your case (i'm sorry i can't stop laughing about this, you poor thing) that they are causing a lot of disruptions, but in many ADD cases, the child is not such a "sqeaky wheel" and can be any combination of dreamy, goofy, shy, disorganized,well-behaved, etc. Some are even a favorite student because of their creativity and personality, leaving teachers frustrated because they can't seem to figure out why such a bright, funny kid can't seem to get it together (we're talking about me here).

So yeah, i basically needed to TELL my dr i was ADD, and fortunately he was compliant. And there are still annoying misconceptions and "in the box" thinking about it. When i originally went to my behavioral health center with Kaiser, the lady smartly came to the conclusion at the end of session one that i was classic ADD. Then she wanted me to take a computerized test to confirm it, because she wanted to get a confirmation on her suspicions. Now this is where i wonder if this is something that Kaiser wants you to do as a counselor or what, because when i came in with a "most likely not ADD" diagnosis, she just was like "oh, ok, well i am writing you down for "unspecified anxiety" and sent me to the actual Pshchiatrist who is the only one who can complete the diagnosis and of course prescribe meds.

This dude had ADD himself, and was a specialist, and when i handed him my papers he said he had never seen this test before. I won't get overly into it, but from everything i ahve read there is no one test that will just give you a yes/no ADD response, or we wouldn't have the problem we do with under and over-diagnosis. This test tests one or two types of responses to stimuli on a screen over 15 minutes...it can give you some clues, but considering the wide range of permutations that this syndrome manifests, the idea that one little computer test is going to diagnose anyone is just infuriating.

So, anyway, wow, way to rant...you don't have ADD. I'm pretty much sure of it. If you are interested in investigating it further, check out www.chadd.org for some explanations and self-tests.

So anyway, what did you do to get kicked out of preschool? what a joke.

I felt I had been unjustly punished (I pushed someone back who had pushed me, I was punished they were not) and I would not stop screaming and banging on things. They called my mom to get me, expelled me, and the next stop was a child shrink. They diagnosed me ADHD (this had to be 1972ish) and said I could not attend normal school. My mom reacted with a screw and a U, and fell for the magic of "low sugar diet," which of course has subsequently been totally debunked.

i was just going through my old posts and just reread this...good for your mom for being like that!

i love that even back then you were really into ethics!

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